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Posted: Oct 26 2009 06:28 pm

Again, I'm with you 100% Syd. I always envisioned high school reunions to take place in the school cafeteria while a DJ spun the songs from our year while we brag to the beat-down-by-life head cheerleader about how much money we make per year. An unofficial gathering run by the douchebag class treasurer at a crappy bar just off the suburbs that costs $40 a ticket, is just retarded and lame.

Posted: Oct 26 2009 09:11 pm

It's funny, I had a conversation about this the other night. Even before I gradded, I thought about how awesome the 10-year reunion would be. But now, 2 years out of school, I'm starting to realize that high school was three years of mental, verbal, and emotional abuse, and feeling like I was worth less than everyone else. And also, the only people in high school I didn't hate, I still talk to. So I've decided I will go under one condition.

If I make it big with music and know that everyone will make a pathetic attempt to be my friend, then I will go. And I'm gonna try and become friends with Scarlett Johansson and Ryan Reynolds in the meantime, so I can invite Scarlett. Even if I have a hot wife, I don't want to subject her to such douchebaggery, and anybody I marry would understand. So I'll show up with Scarlett, collect bets from Sean Fortin and Tyler Evans because I actually managed to bring her, and then ask if I can say a few words. It is then that I will reveal that I'm only there to see people I never lost contact with and maybe apologize to some people I was rude to, and laugh in the faces of everyone that rejected me, insulted me, and made fun of me and my guitar playing.

K, I'm a little bitter, but whatever.

Posted: Oct 26 2009 09:39 pm

If your single go, If not, don't go.

Joined: Oct 01 2009 Posts: 5316

Fuck relationship status...are you successful or not? If you're doing better than 90% of your graduating class, show up and show off. At least that's what I'd do, not that I was hated or anything, quite the contrary. But everyone I knew was such a joke and a complete kissass, most people didn't have a single redeemable quality.

Posted: Oct 26 2009 10:31 pm

if i do go, im gonna get everyone's phone number and pretend to be their friend. then im gonna borrow cash from everyone and change my phone number. i live in phoenix and they live in tucson. i been to tucson multiple times and havent seen anyone from high school at all, so theres no chance of me paying them back lol

Joined: Oct 01 2009 Posts: 5316

I always love those random adds on Facebook of people I went to high school with, whom I never talked to, yet they friend me, I accept since I don't really care, but they never say a thing. It's funny, they just want to "look" important...online...yeah.

Of course, I shouldn't talk, afterall I DID friend them.

I'm actually thinking of going, but dressed as a Buddhist priest and completely pull a 180 as far as my composure goes. That, or go in drag and ruin everyone's fun by making them feel uncomfortable.

Posted: Oct 26 2009 10:42 pm

I had my 10 year earlier this month. I didn't really want to go but I paid the $25 bucks anyways so if I decided to go at the last minute, I could. Most of my friends were in different grades. Most of the people in my class were fuck faces who I could probably see at the bar back home on any given weekend. Most of the people I would want to see, I see now except maybe a few old friends. On top of that, one of my best friends who was in my grade wasn't going because his band had a gig at some wedding reception. The closer it came to the reunion, the less I wanted to go. But one of my best friends, who wasn't in my grade, was dating somebody who was from my class and was going with her. So he wanted me to go. So I went.

It was at the country club. There was food and the bar was open. There was a DJ but it didn't feel like a dance or like being at a bar or anything. I guess it was kind of like I thought it would be. Anybody there I wanted to talk to were people I talk to now. Everyone else was just people I didn't care to see. People even started out in their own little groups. But then everyone loosened up and it was cool.

I had a fucking blast! I talked to everyone I didn't think I would talk to or even want to talk to. I even talked to people I didn't talk to in school. Nobody was bragging about how successful they were and nobody was made to feel inferior for not doing anything with their lives. It was like nobody gave a shit. People would ask what you do and how you have been. But it was more for small talk. But everyone was having a few beers, telling stories, and getting to know each other again. Everyone got along. Everyone was hanging out with everyone.

I have to admit, it went way different than I thought it would and I am glad I went. I know it all sounds a little corny and a little cheesy. But I thought I was the last person who would have a good time. But I probably had as much fun as anyone.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 08:17 am

I loved high school. I played baseball, dated cheerleaders and hung out with the asshole squad. After leaving for the Marines and getting away from that scene I soon realized what a dick I was. I have 0 friends from high school anymore, 0. I keep in touch with a few people here and there but I have no interest in seeing a bunch of people who I pretended to be like. I'll never forget my freshman year I was sitting with two kids I just met (they were not very popular) talking about video games when one of the kids from the baseball team came up and said "why are you sitting with these retards, come over here with us!" I did, and never talked to those kids again. Looking back now, I had more of a chance to stay friends with those kids then the people I wasted my time on in high school. Fuck high school, and fuck reunions. I didnt go to mine last year, and I'm all for you ditching yours Syd. Unless it's open bar, then get you better get your ass there.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 09:13 am

Ha, no it's not an open bar. It's $30 for two drink coupons and "unlimited appetizers". Which means over the course of 6 hours, they'll put out a total of nine trays of appetizers, and they'll be three kinds.

My issue isn't so much that I didn't like these people; I did. I had a rough time in junior high, and some of that carried over into freshman year. But sophomore I started to come into my own, and by senior year, I was having a great time. I had absolutely no enemies to speak of, was on good terms with pretty much everyone, and a lot of underclassmen thought I was cool. Why, I'll never know, but they did.

I'm happy with my memories of high school. It was a good time. I like the things I remember, and I like those people the way I remember them. Why do I need to see them again? Why tarnish the memories by seeing fatter, older versions of these people? How does that help me? It doesn't. It's like when you go to some horror convention because they have Linda Blair advertised. So you go there to get her autograph because you think it'll be cool. Only it's not. Linda Blair is old, struggling to get work, and beaten down by life. And then you just can't seem to enjoy The Exorcist quite as much anymore. And then there's a void inside you, where something you cherished once was. I don't need that. I don't need that at all.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 09:19 am

Syd Lexia wrote:

It's like when you go to some horror convention because they have Linda Blair advertised. So you go there to get her autograph because you think it'll be cool. Only it's not. Linda Blair is old, struggling to get work, and beaten down by life. And then you just can't seem to enjoy The Exorcist quite as much anymore. And then there's a void inside you, where something you cherished once was. I don't need that. I don't need that at all.

Or just watch "Repossessed".

Posted: Oct 27 2009 09:30 am

Let's never talk of Repossessed again.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 11:03 am

It's not open bar?

Fuck that noise.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 01:22 pm

Syd Lexia wrote:

I like the things I remember, and I like those people the way I remember them. Why do I need to see them again? Why tarnish the memories by seeing fatter, older versions of these people? How does that help me? It doesn't.

Maybe you're just unwilling to face the reality that you've changed as well. </Freud>

But really, had you put your entire high school class in cryogenic isolation for the last ten years, then thawed them now to have a reunion, would it be more entertaining? No. They wouldn't have anything to talk to you about that you didn't know already.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 01:25 pm

I'm the same age as you, as my reunion is also coming up next month.

I don't really feel like going, either. I've kept in touch with all the people I really want to keep in touch with. I have no real interest in making small talk with other people who I don't care much about. But a few of my friends are more nostalgic about it than I am, so I'm going with them.

Posted: Oct 27 2009 01:26 pm

Which is fine. I don't care about their new lives. I don't care how many kids they have. I don't care where they live. I don't care what they do for work. It is completely uninteresting to me.

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I hated high school. The only reason I would go is if I had two trophy wives to show off and indicate to those wastes of life that I ultimately ended up better than them.

Posted: Oct 29 2009 10:07 pm

JRA wrote:

I hated high school. The only reason I would go is if I had two trophy wives to show off and indicate to those wastes of life that I ultimately ended up better than them.

Yeah, cause nothing says "I'm living a better and more satisfying life" than what people would merely interpret as "I hired two escorts for the night".

Posted: Oct 29 2009 10:10 pm

Syd Lexia wrote:

Which is fine. I don't care about their new lives. I don't care how many kids they have. I don't care where they live. I don't care what they do for work. It is completely uninteresting to me.

If you don't care about the people there in the slightest, you shouldn't go. It's just a waste of time.

Posted: Oct 30 2009 02:40 am

I didn't go to my ten year reunion. I ran into a couple classmates at the bar later though. They asked where I was and I just said I didn't feel like going. On top of that we had to pay since they rented out a restaurant/bar for it. This was a couple months ago.

Besides that I'd much rather hang out and drink with my real friends from the restaurant/bar where I work then people from high school that I don't remember being all that cool anyway.

Joined: Dec 06 2007 Location: Connecticut Posts: 11244

I went to my 10 year reunion last night.

I was not expecting what I saw. Here is the breakdown:

50% of my class of 330 showed up.
Of those 50% I recognized about 80% by look and about 65% by name.
I'd say that at least 80-90% of the people I spoke with claimed to have good jobs and happy lives. For those who actually went into detail about it, I believe them. For those who just said "oh I work in that town doing this type of work" yeah... maybe.
Success Story: One of my classmates is an associate producer for The Soup
Weak Link Story: No one admitted to anything.
Looks wise at least 80-90% of the people who I recognized look BETTER than they did in high school. Those who needed to lose weight did. Those who needed to gain it did. Only 3 or 4 people looked like they were worse for wear. I am not counting guys who went bald unless they let themselves go.
The class clown was warm, inviting, and sincere. Actually a pleasure to talk with.
Only 3 people I talked to mentioned having children
About half of the people were married

Conclusion: I am glad I went, but 3 hours was plenty. My wife and I both graduated together, so it was fun to see friends of both of ours from years past. I talked with more people that I didn't really know because she was friends with them, and I'm sure she ended up speaking with more of my friends too. I think that for the most part it makes sense that the people who would be comfortable going to the reunion wouldn't have horrible stories to share, but I also think that there are a lot of liars/fakers who just didn't want to be honest about their lives.

The most interesting thing to me is that out of my current friends from high school that I still hang out with only 1 out of 6 went (my wife and I excluded). In some ways though it was nice because I didn't latch onto anyone and hold a long conversation, but instead mingled well and when it was done didn't feel obligated to stick around.

Posted: Nov 28 2009 12:16 pm

I actually think I missed my high school reunion this year (since I graduated in 99) but honestly, I could care less. I've found a number of people on various social networking sites and, surprise surprise, like 80% of them live in roughly the same geographical area they did ten years ago. I didn't have a lot in common with most of them back then, and I don't think that now is really any different. I've visited eight different countries, married a woman six years my junior who knows none of them, and don't really have any desire to hash out what they consider 'great memories' all night.

That said, Syd, if you're single, go and have a drink or two. Maybe you'll get to nail that hot girl that things just never quite worked out with in high school (I think we've all had this). Or just check the scene out and if it sucks, bail.

Posted: Nov 28 2009 01:56 pm

Mine was also last night. Didn't go. Went to Chili's with some friends instead and had a great time.

Joined: Oct 01 2009 Posts: 5316

Syd Lexia wrote:

Mine was also last night. Didn't go. Went to Chili's with some friends instead and had a great time.

Chili's > high school

Posted: Nov 28 2009 02:06 pm

Ironically if you don't go to high school you may end up working at Chili's.

Joined: Oct 01 2009 Posts: 5316

Blackout wrote:

Ironically if you don't go to high school you may end up working at Chili's.

It would be even more ironic for Syd, if he saw someone he went to high school with working there. And even more ironic if that person wanted to go to the reunion but couldn't get the day off. That's a lot of ironic.