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Posted: Jul 15 2009 12:56 am

So, I was checking my facebook when I saw something really disturbing.
My friend who I have known for about 8 years, got "married" to his highschool "Sweetheart".

Now you might be wondering "why did you quote married and sweetheart?" simple, because this guy is only fucking 19 and he believed this girl to be the best he could get. Apparently so, since I personally know that she is fucking INSANE and he doesn't realize it. Further more, he's the theatrical type that will give a gumball ring to a girl and think it will be everlasting love...

Generally I don't get involved with relationships other then my own because I had to kick this one kids ass and I don't feel like doing that to this guy, but still fists could fly and it wouldn't be man against man... it would be man against man-whore-beast thing...

Further more, is it just me or do other people think that it's a little fucked up that he's only twenty, just got married and has no job, debt up to his ears and will most likely sacrifice his possible teaching career, to make this thing worth it?

So my dilemma is this...
A) Should I be pissed off that I wasn't invited to the wedding? Because I'm not. In fact if I did go, I would have no doubt brought a crucifix and some holy water...
B) Is it really nessecary for me to drive out to the middle of nowhere and beat a hobo to death?
C) Should I start taking bets with everyone else who sees her as a psycho and if it's alright, I've got fifty bucks riding it ends in violence
D) Should I talk to him about this? I mean, we were friends for 8 years before he started dating her....

Posted: Jul 15 2009 01:11 am

1) stop using "pry" instead of probably(I assume).

2) go with C) might as well make some money off of this guy.

Posted: Jul 15 2009 01:21 am

Fixed it a bit...

Posted: Jul 15 2009 01:48 am

D.

How long has he known his sweetheart?

Posted: Jul 15 2009 01:54 am

Junior year of highschool they started dating.
They only met through thier Terrible "Les Miserables" play as he somehow got the part of Marius, and she was the horny chick that got shot dead. Before that he was dating some girl in band that thought his ability to suck and blow on a reed mouth piece was "hotter then Felucia in summertime"
Yes... Star Wars...

Posted: Jul 15 2009 02:37 am

Slayer1 wrote:

Junior year of highschool they started dating.
They only met through thier Terrible "Les Miserables" play as he somehow got the part of Marius, and she was the horny chick that got shot dead. Before that he was dating some girl in band that thought his ability to suck and blow on a reed mouth piece was "hotter then Felucia in summertime"
Yes... Star Wars...

Talk some sense into him, 20 years old is still young, why mess it up with the responsibility of marriage?

UsaSatsui's Youtube Channel · Posted: Jul 15 2009 02:38 am

Maybe, no, no, and stay the fuck out of it.

What do you expect to accomplish by talking to him? Suddenly he'll see things in a whole new way, the sun will come out, birds will chirp, and he'll leave his wife?

No, you'll just get him pissed off at YOU, and it won't change a thing. Besides, he clearly knows this woman better than you do, being her husband and all. If she's really a psycho bitch, he'll come around, and then you can help him.

Until then, keep your mouth shut. I would like to point out that you're essentially talking shit about a guy's wife, and I can say that while I'm generally a peaceful and easygoing guy, if you start insulting my wife, I'm going to get very, very, holy shit oh my fucking God run angry (ask some chat people about this one if you don't believe it).

Posted: Jul 15 2009 03:21 am

Yea I got to go with the rabbit on this one. It's already done and there really isn't anything you can do about it. Plus you weren't even invited to the wedding, how good of a friend is this guy suppose to be? Talking to him won't do anything and there is a chance she might be completely different with him behind closed doors.

Posted: Jul 15 2009 03:39 am

Thirded. Gotta agree with Usa and Douche.

Posted: Jul 15 2009 06:19 am

SoldierHawk wrote:

Usa Douche.

There's no need for name-calling. And stop talking like Jar-Jar.

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Mesa mostly agree with the Bunny-Douche-Hawk.

A) You should only be pissed off if you have been friends with him over the last year. It sounds like you haven't been in his life for about 4 years or so.
B) Nope, you shouldn't worry about what he does, that is his problem, and perhaps his parents.
C) Don't take bets, you are only working yourself up.
D) You should not talk to him about this because you are no longer friends.

If you really feel the need to interject, then do it in another way. Become his friend again. Don't ever mention his wife. Just show him how a normal person lives and acts. If you are happy and have a good life and he is interested, he will see that his life isn't following suit. Otherwise, you had better leave him alone.

Posted: Jul 15 2009 09:59 am

Dr Laura would say it's not your business, and you have no obligation to anyone involved. And she'd be right.

Posted: Jul 15 2009 10:46 am

who stopped the friendship slayer? you or him? or was it a mutual thing? cause like GP said, you guys havent been part of each others lives for several years now, so whatever you say now wouldnt help. its already over and done with. anything you try to do now would be detrimental towards you trying to rebuild your friendship. i would personally just try to rebuild my friendship w/said friend. once thats re-established, then you can start putting your two cents in about his marriage.

Posted: Jul 15 2009 02:31 pm

Well pretty much, I am not gonna talk to him about because I think Satsui is right, he'll come to his sense.
Further more, neither of us said let's not be friends, his girlfriend/wife did that at his senior grad party when she told me to get the fuck out for whatever reason.
Now about me calling her a bitch, it's because she does fall into the catergory of complete psycho hose beast. A conversation between the two of us at one point consisted of this " So, why don't you talk to me anymore? is it because I took your only friend away and I'm giving him the fuck of his life" "I don't talk to you because I have nothing to say to you. If you are done, I'd like to leave" try to kept it civil, but when confronted she was one to spread rumors.
But that's in the past, no doubt the syphalis and herpes I'm sure they have will result in a beautiful genetic anomally. And the thing about the hobo... uh, I killed one. He's decomposing in my locker...

Posted: Jul 16 2009 06:12 pm

People these days get married because they "feel" like they need to in order to be a normal human or that it is what they are suppose to do. But seriously at 19?, maybe in 1945 but not 2009. I have yet to find a 19 year old girl who isn't a different person by age 24, same with the dude.

Posted: Jul 16 2009 09:56 pm

Bouya wrote:

Dr Laura would say it's not your business, and you have no obligation to anyone involved. And she'd be right.

Dr.Laura would say that their was no reason to change your name after everyone knew you as Bjork.

Posted: Jul 16 2009 10:01 pm

Ermac wrote:

Bouya wrote:

Dr Laura would say it's not your business, and you have no obligation to anyone involved. And she'd be right.

Dr.Laura would say that their was no reason to change your name after everyone knew you as Bjork.

She would also say don't double post. Edit is your friend!

Posted: Jul 17 2009 01:40 am

ah TOO-SHAY DOO-SHAY!

Posted: Jul 17 2009 01:49 am

I sense a lemon party coming on...