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Posted: Sep 27 2008 11:02 pm

I'm a relatively non violent person, at first glance i just seem mellow and laid back, I get "chirped"(like just the boys joshing eachother, it's a term most americans haven't heard, none that I know had anyway) and sometimes get pissed off but just keep it in. Other times i get legitimately hated on and i get pretty pissed, but i bottle it all up.

I have had anger management issues in the past, but it was usually just taken out on the family with yelling and shit or threat of violence but without actually using force, i could control myself. As I've grown up, I've gotten a little bit more impullsive when I snap, I don't think or really control myself, I just do.

For example, this year in hockey, the other team scored a goal, right after a kid brings his stick down over my head, i thot it was intentional, it was a really hard hit. Next play he shoots the puck towards me and hits me, there is no hitting in the league, it didn't do anything to me but i was pissed after getting slashed in the face and then that, so i punch him in the side of the head then break my stick over his head.

I am a bit worried I will snap one day and severly injure or even kill somebody.

Anyone else just snap once in a while?

Joined: Sep 17 2007 Location: The Opium Trail Posts: 3475

Dude it's friggin hockey, half of its spectators wouldn't care if there weren't any fights!

Posted: Sep 27 2008 11:30 pm

i think he was just using the hockey incident as an example.

obviously he is afraid of snapping at the wrong time or the wrong place or to the wrong person.

what you need is a punching bag. get pissed off? go punch the bag for five minutes.

if you dont want a punching bag, you need a release of some sort. everyone has different releases. i hardly get mad anymore, but when i do, i just lift weights or drink. or watch tv. im too laid back nowadays to get real mad.

and if i feel people are picking/hating on me, then i just bring it up w/them. a nice reasonable discussion always works for me.

Joined: Aug 24 2005 Location: Mount Holly, NJ Posts: 1062

anorexorcist wrote:

I am a bit worried I will snap one day and severly injure or even kill somebody.

Have you sought any counseling at all yet? I sorta remember you being upset or depressed in the past as well. Just sayin that this sort of thing seems a little alarming.

Posted: Sep 28 2008 12:06 am

Joined: Aug 22 2005 Posts: 328

anorexorcist wrote:

I get "chirped"(like just the boys joshing eachother, it's a term most americans haven't heard, none that I know had anyway)

I've never heard it either; must be a western thing.

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Dude it's friggin hockey, half of its spectators wouldn't care if there weren't any fights!

+1

Good advice otherwise... punching bag sounds great and it's good exercise!

Posted: Sep 28 2008 10:40 am

I snapped along time ago, once it happens it's a pretty easy transition. As long as you don't wake up with blood on your shoes and no idea what happened the night before you'll be okay. If that does happen.......Move to Mexico or something. Confused

Posted: Sep 28 2008 11:08 am

Kubo wrote:

anorexorcist wrote:

I am a bit worried I will snap one day and severly injure or even kill somebody.

Have you sought any counseling at all yet? I sorta remember you being upset or depressed in the past as well. Just sayin that this sort of thing seems a little alarming.

I'm currently seeing a psychologist, I've been fine and have not snapped since the hockey incident, it's jsut been in the back of my head for a while that I seem to be a bit of a ticking time bomb.

Tuckster, I am in Ontario, so more east lol. I never thought "chirpping" was so regional to here.

Joined: Aug 13 2008 Location: Watertown, NY Posts: 131

First of all, it was a Hockey game, so it's a little difficult to gauge the severity of your reaction. It doesn't sound to me like you snapped all that badly, given the environment. I find that Jesus helps me when I get mad. There's no situation he can't handle. Observe:

Someone spills my beer at poker night: "Jezis man! Watch what you're doing, willya'?"

Someone cuts me off while driving: "JYEEsus asshole! Watch where the fuck you're going!"

Someone bumps into me: "Je-ZUS!"

The post office loses a package of mine: "Ah, Jesus H. CHRIST! What the fuck is wrong with you people!?"

Posted: Sep 28 2008 01:17 pm

Speaking of snapping this computer in he break room is slow! Mad

Posted: Sep 28 2008 05:33 pm

Blackout wrote:

I snapped along time ago, once it happens it's a pretty easy transition. As long as you don't wake up with blood on your shoes and no idea what happened the night before you'll be okay. If that does happen.......Move to Mexico or something. Confused

reminds me of one new years afternoon i woke up and my shirt was full of blood and my upper lip was a little swollen.

apparently i stumbled into my tv (didnt break anything) while trying to find my bed drunk at like 6 or 7 in the morning. it was good times trying to CSI myself and why i had a bloody shirt.

who gave username a bloody shirt? the 1987 denver broncos

Joined: Dec 18 2007 Posts: 50

Just don't concern yourself with the blood on your bed, your bleeding knuckles, the holes in your wall.

Just ignore it, that's what I do.

Posted: Sep 28 2008 05:50 pm

Mario Buster:Buster Mario wrote:

Just don't concern yourself with the blood on your bed, your bleeding knuckles, the holes in your wall.

Just ignore it, that's what I do.

Yeah hat's nothing a bottle of vodka can't cure, or create more of.

Posted: Sep 28 2008 09:43 pm

Don't worry, man, I get the exact same way when someone's lying to me and I find out about it. Usually I just punch a wall (preferably a brick one so I don't put a hole in it) until my hand hurts a bit too much for punching anymore. Maybe that's not the best or brightest of methods, but I suppose it's better than taking it out on other people.

Posted: Sep 28 2008 09:53 pm

Hulk Hands

Posted: Sep 28 2008 10:04 pm

Holy shit, Tuckster!

On topic, I'm a pretty non-violent guy, but I'm animated when it comes to how I feel. If something really pisses me off, I will try to ignore it, but it gets buried at times. Once, it all built up and I took it out on someone.

I was working as the head of security at my college and some kid threw an empty keg at one of my employees. It missed her, but it could have really hurt her, or even killed her. I was on top of that kid so fast, punching the fuck out of him. Apparently I broke 6 bones in his face before someone pulled him off of me, and I remember none of it.

After that, I was referred to counseling for a few months. It's so weird to hear from people after the fact that the same thing happens to them: they bottle it all up and just unleash it once; once is all it takes. So my advice would be that if something bothers you, just say it. You may come off as an asshole, but I find that talking frankly about what bothers you really does make it better.

Joined: Aug 26 2007 Posts: 2752

I'm studying to become a teacher, i will soon have to make my peace with the fact that everyday will feel like "ZOMG I'm going to snap."

My roommate has been driving me nuts lately so i'm using it as training. It's been very efficient so far, he's still alive and nothing has been broken.

Posted: Sep 29 2008 01:47 am

For me, not snapping, is like anything else in life, a battle fought a day at a time. I have not snapped, really, ever. Ok yeah I have been in a few fights over the years, but I don't go to start them or provoke them. Anyway, things I keep in mind to not snap, or become violent needlessly.
1. What is this action going to solve?
I know that is hard to think of in the moment, but if you keep that thought in your mind at all times, as part of your daily routine, it makes it easier.
2. What am I going to gain from this?
Same as above, easier said then done, but if you incorporate it into your thought process, it can help.
3. There is always someone bigger and or badder then me, that if I snap, may be there, and take me down, and or out.
You never know if in the situation the other person is capable of this. I mean, they could be shorter, or seem scrawny, too fat, slow, whatever. But you never know what can happen, it's a fight, and most times, there is no real winner. I had a former coworker, lost over 50% hearing in one ear, you know why? He picked a fight with a guy who said something to his girlfriend, or spilled a drink on her something like that. The guy not only was beating him pretty good, but 8 more of his friends showed up and pounded him into a severe concussion, short term coma, and hearing loss, along with needing stitches, staples, and cosmetic work on his ear, and some teeth fixed.

I say keep working with the therapist, find ways to channel the residual anger you build up in a day (punching bag, especially a heavy bag, great suggestion), and if you can, meditate. It may sound corny, but it can help.

Joined: Apr 14 2006 Location: Lake Michigan Posts: 3332

Between work and grad school, I'm surprised I didn't snap over the summer. And believe me, reading a lot of Dostoevsky doesn't help.

Yet, I didn't even snap when I got in my first car accident last month. I was calm as hell afterward. Very strange.

"My advice to you is to start drinking heavily. "

Joined: Dec 06 2007 Location: Connecticut Posts: 11244

anorexorcist wrote:

I'm a relatively non violent person, at first glance i just seem mellow and laid back, I get "chirped"(like just the boys joshing eachother, it's a term most americans haven't heard, none that I know had anyway) and sometimes get pissed off but just keep it in. Other times i get legitimately hated on and i get pretty pissed, but i bottle it all up.

I have had anger management issues in the past, but it was usually just taken out on the family with yelling and shit or threat of violence but without actually using force, i could control myself. As I've grown up, I've gotten a little bit more impullsive when I snap, I don't think or really control myself, I just do.

For example, this year in hockey, the other team scored a goal, right after a kid brings his stick down over my head, i thot it was intentional, it was a really hard hit. Next play he shoots the puck towards me and hits me, there is no hitting in the league, it didn't do anything to me but i was pissed after getting slashed in the face and then that, so i punch him in the side of the head then break my stick over his head.

I am a bit worried I will snap one day and severly injure or even kill somebody.

Anyone else just snap once in a while?

You need to exercise more often. I would also suggest you join a martial arts school with a good teacher. They will show you how to keep your confidence high, but avoid physical confrontation. Seriously, if you tell them it is something you want to work on, they will help you.