You ain't a goddamn failure just because some chick went for another guy instead of you. Don't talk like that. It'll only take you in circles.

Find someone else. Don't settle. Be picky. But find someone else. Who knows? Maybe seeing you with someone else will make her see you in a way she couldn't before. Maybe you'll simply find someone who's better suited to you than her, and there'll be no need to pine.

ross_rifle113 wrote:

haha thanks guys. It's not like it's the end of the world, I'm just frustrated. I hate that I found out through facebook. I'm mad at her, but I shouldn't be, and I'm mad that I feel this way, because it isn't a big deal. It's just that it keeps adding up. Here's the big factor: (being as modest as possible, because I hate talking about myself), I think I'm a decent looking guy, I'm pretty funny, kind, generous, very loving, and sensitive. I've been told that these are all excellent boyfriend qualities. Yet, girls don't ever see me in any light except as friend. And you see douchebag jerk-offs everywhere with girls. It doesn't make any sense. I know that eventually I'll be the type of guy a girl is looking for, just not now. I just don't get why I have to be alone. And so fucking lonely. The one thing I really want is to have someone depend on me. I want to be the one person that someone wants and needs to be there. I love nothing more than helping people, and I sometimes flat-out refuse help from people, because I don't want people to worry about me. What I want is someone who needs me to be there, and can always count on seeing me there. And I always will be. As I've stated many many times in my life, girls suck and keep making it harder to see that their worth the effort. I've decided to play guitar whenever I feel lonely. There's some girls that are always there and won't ever hurt me.

Dude, Holy Shit. I know this your thread, but I'll be damned if most of that isn't exactly how I feel right now.

Since I've gone to college, there are two people, both girls (both taken, too, so it's strictly platonic, at least for now), who I am trying VERY hard to stay in contact with. One of these girls is someone who I feel that I need in my life. She's been there for me at a time when most people weren't, and I'm eternally indebted to her because of it. She's one of my best friends, and she has said that I'm one of hers. I believed her at first. But now, I'm always the one doing the texting. I'm always the one starting the conversations. I never get word from either of them unless I've sent word first. I know that it's not that big of a deal, but I just would like to feel like they want to stay in touch with me as much as I want to with them. That they LIKE me as much as I do them.

But I don't feel that, and, to be honest, it hurts. I don't trust easy, and I trusted these two. I don't necessarily feel betrayed, just... disappointed. It was stupid and arrogant of me to expect that from them, though, so it's as much my fault as anyone else's.

The worst part is, the girl who is probably my best friend is totally insecure about her relationship with her boyfriend, who is off at college, but she won't admit it to me. I can read her like a book (as she can me), and I see all the signs. When I ask how things are going between him and her, it's always a simple "Good. Change of subject", and I see her searching for validation in facts that don't mean anything. It's great that she's been with him for nine months, but her last boyfriend was a complete psychopath and she was with him for ten. I really want to help her through this. I want her to want me to be there for her. Not romantically or anything, just for support. Is that wrong of me?

She once told me that she felt that she could tell me anything and that I have been good for her, and I'm only now starting to realize that it was bullshit. And that sucks.

Sorry for another sob story. Your post just set me off.