Okay, so my sister is graduating high school in early June. Her graduation ceremony is on a Saturday and her party is the next day, Sunday.

I had originally planned to skip the graduation ceremony, because it's fucking stupid. She's not valedictorian or anything, so I'd have to sit there for 3-4 hours to watch her get a high school diploma. It's not like getting the physical diploma is a big deal. A well-trained animal could get a high school diploma. In fact, the entire football team is graduating this year. The diploma is basically a piece of paper that says "Congratulations, you lived to be 18 years old. Good for you."

I don't see why I should have to go this. Her argument of course, is that she went to mine. Well, of course she did. She was a kid at the time and my parents weren't going to hire a babysitter. But I wouldn't have cared particularly if she hadn't gone, or if anyone in my family had gone. Why? Because it's a boring ceremony and graduating high school isn't any more of an accomplishment than getting out of bed on any given day.

Her graduation is inevitably in the middle of the day, and I'd have to take the whole day off from to go to it. So I'd be losing out on a pay day due to waste 3 hours at some bullshit ceremony. And then I'd sit around bored the rest of the day, wishing I was earning money.

I had planned to go to her graduation party, but then I found out her graduation party is bullshit. I had expected it to go from like 12 PM - ???, but it is going to go from 12 PM - 4 PM, because she decided to have it on a day in which she's also in a community theater production. So again, I'd have to take off the whole day to go to a four hour party. On a day where I could be earning 1.5 times my normal payrate.

I really wish she'd have her graduation party on graduation day, but she threw a hissy fit because one of her friends is having their graduation party on that day, and my mom gave into her. Ironically, I threw a much bigger hissy fit over having my high graduation party on graduation day, because like EVERYONE was having theirs that day and I was afraid no one would come to mine. But my mom told me to STFU, and my party actually turned out really well.

So my sister wants me to take off an entire weekend of guaranteed pay so that I can spend 8 hours over 2 days watching her ignore me and hang out with her friends. I don't think I should have to bother. Is that unreasonable? Would it be unreasonable to make her pick one day for me to be there? Or for me to pick Saturday, since I lose out on less money that way?

So the general consensus is that I'm obligated to go to the ceremony but not the party? I'm fine with that. I was kinda leaning towards that. As for the party, I'm taking her to Poison/Crue in July, so that'll make it up to her.

Honestly, I don't really care if she's mad at me. She's a traitor and she's made life choices I don't agree with. She, for whatever reason, wants to be a voice major. As someone with a completely useless major, I see no problem with this. But, she got into the music program at the unversity I graduated from and refuses to go there. She apparently thinks she's too good to go there, even though she has consistently had significantly poorer grades than I did when I was her age. She wanted to go to Ithaca, because her chorale instructor went there and brainwashed her into thinking it's the bee's knees, but she was rejected from the music program. She reapplied as a Creative Writing major as was accepted. So now she's decided to go there as a Creative Writing major, despite being a really shitty writer. Her plan is reapply to the music program every semester and hopefully get in eventually. But if she doesn't get it, she'll probably stick with Creative Writing even though she's awful and it's not what she really wants to do. She could be in her fucking dream major at the other school and still keep reapplying to Ithaca's music program. But no, she can't be reasoned with, and now it's too late anyway because the deposit was paid and the acceptance deadlines have passed.

Also, with the party, she's just going to hang out with her friends the whole time. I'll be lucky if she even says hi to me. Why should I have to be there?

I do work on weekends. I actually have some vacation time, so the Saturday won't be a bh deal.