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Posted: Jan 07 2010 01:49 am

The fuck do I do now?

Posted: Jan 07 2010 01:51 am

Well, first u start off on trash duty, then u go to mopping, then to washing lettuce. After a year or two u make assistant manager. That's when the big bucks roll in

Posted: Jan 07 2010 01:54 am

1. Watch people make fools out of themselves.
2. Watch relationships/marriages/friendships end.
3. Find out about stuff you could care less about.

Other than all that have fun! Very Happy

Posted: Jan 07 2010 01:55 am

Post your sister's blow job list.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 01:58 am

careful though, 1 in 5 people cite facebook as a cause of divorce

Posted: Jan 07 2010 02:00 am

Well, my problem is I don't really know anyone on there. Friend-requesting acquaintances from five years ago seems, well, really awkward to me.

Joined: Nov 11 2009 Location: Cajun Country Posts: 1511

You get off now.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 02:03 am

Fuck that. Worse they could say is no. Easy way to catch up

Posted: Jan 07 2010 02:05 am

So should I just go down the list of "People I might know" and send a friend request to everyone?

Joined: Nov 11 2009 Location: Cajun Country Posts: 1511

Yeah just do it even if you don't know some of them. You could get some good laughs out of this.

2010 SLF Tag Champ Joined: Jun 07 2006 Posts: 12294

facebook is a fun time waster. I just wouldn't take the shit too seriously. I know myself and a few others here have facebooks. you could always add us as a start.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 03:18 am

username wrote:

Well, first u start off on trash duty, then u go to mopping, then to washing lettuce. After a year or two u make assistant manager. That's when the big bucks roll in

lol

Posted: Jan 07 2010 08:07 am

username wrote:

careful though, 1 in 5 people cite facebook as a cause of divorce

My wife threw out the idea of getting on Facebook a few months ago "to keep in touch with old friends" and I absolutely forbade her and thankfully, she listened and changed her mind. To me, if you're married, you have no reason to be on a social networking site that is really only good for meeting and talking to new people. It's just too fucking dangerous.

It's like going to a singles bar "just to hang out".

Joined: May 22 2009 Location: Cincinnati, OH Posts: 353

If someone is going to damage their relationship/marriage by being on facebook, I don't think it was a very solid relationship to begin with. Saying that it is like going to a singles bar "just to hang out" only applies to people who are flirting with the idea of cheating anyway.

Most of the people I know on facebook just use it to keep up with family members and close friends. Its also a better way to follow websites, sports/music/political personalities as opposed to Twitter which sucks.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 10:59 am

I agree, some people take facebook far too seriously. Who cares if you haven't talked to someone in 5 years? If you were friends once, send a request. That's what it's for. Hell, that person might have a connection to help you get a better job or something.

And yea.....if your relationship fails because of facebook flirting, you're not dating the right person. 1 in 5 people blame facebook for their divorce? Well, when we've got a divorce rate that's over 50% I tend to think it's because people are getting married to the wrong people. Not because of a website.

Title: Hugh Joined: Sep 23 2007 Posts: 1591

Yeah, I agree. Most people use Facebook to chat with friends and keep up to date on those friends'. If someone can't manage reading someones statuses and chatting with them a bit without feeling the need to get their rocks off with said person, they're a total slut anyway.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 11:17 am

I use facebook as a way to keep in touch without having to put forth much effort. It's easier to just leave a quick comment then it is to call someone and have an hour long coversation with them.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 11:41 am

its also a good way to keep in touch w/family that might have moved away. or if you moved away, you can keep in touch w/those you left behind.

like JEW said, you can add some of us who are on facebook already, like myself just to get started

Posted: Jan 07 2010 11:47 am

I agree with what's been said by zombie et al. There's nothing wrong with Facebook. It's not like your friend someone and suddenly you're chatting back and forth. You friend them, and that's it. Maybe you wish them a happy birthday, maybe you comment on a status update or two. But the average Facebook user has hundreds of friends. It's not like you add someone and they're like "Haven't seen you since high school, wanna fuck?"

Joined: May 22 2008 Location: Goshen, VA Posts: 6544

I'll be damned if I'm gonna forbid my significant other to use Facebook like Pandajuice so eloquently did. That just screams trust issues.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 12:45 pm

You guys are speaking as casual users of the service, or even as people who have signed up, friended a couple people and then not logged on again for weeks. I was speaking more against the people who use it as a social networking obsession where the majority of their time is spent on the site trying to make as many friends as possible and have long, intimate chats with those people.

And yeah, call me an asshole, but I have some issues with my wife potentially sending private messages to long lost ex-boyfriends or her ex-husband. It's inappropriate and unnatural to me and can only lead to unnecessary problems and potential strains on the relationship. Likewise, she'd be uncomfortable if I were suddenly speaking to my ex-girlfriend of three years on a daily basis.
If you don't express your discomfort with your spouse using Facebook as a whole, then where do you draw the line? No ex-boyfriends? Only female friends? It just becomes a clusterfuck no matter how much you trust her. You guys get yourselves married to someone you'd die for before taking such a clear cut approach to the matter. In a marriage, you realize that cutting out the little potential headaches really makes life easier for both of you because if you don't, it will degrade.

It's not about this fictional blind trust that people seem to think is a given in a healthy relationship. We both just agreed with each other that the potential gains from using Facebook are miniscule compared to the potential problems it might cause down the road. It takes more than unfettered trust to make a marriage work people.

Joined: May 22 2008 Location: Goshen, VA Posts: 6544

I share my passwords for everything with my woman because we trust each other. Is that out of the question in your case? I use facebook to talk to friends who have moved away and so does she. It's not as big a deal as your making it. I'm not singling you out man, anytime you think I'm being a dick just assume I am being hyperbolic.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 01:37 pm

I just don't think that it's ever healthy for one partner to "forbid" anything in a relationship, even if it's mutual. I think the underlying trust/control issues such forbidding implies would do more to erode the relationship than anything else.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 02:35 pm

I fuck all my facebook friends. Except those on the forum, you guys are safe.

Posted: Jan 07 2010 02:37 pm

Sonuvabitch. I just now looked back into my account and I've been looking up all my old HS buds and even the teachers I really liked.

As for the moratorium on anything between a married couple, I think it's alright. As long as you at least explain why you don't want something being done, it seems reasonable instead of just outright banning it.