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UsaSatsui
Title: The White Rabbit
Joined: May 25 2008
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I was curious...is anyone else on this board married, engaged, or otherwise seriously involved with someone for the long term? I mean, seriously...if you still think of the person as your "boy/girlfriend", you're not who I mean.
I was just wondering, because I mentioned a couple of times that I am, and that usually surprises people, but it doesn't seem to here.
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anorexorcist
Title: Polar Bear
Joined: May 21 2008
Location: The Cock and Plucket
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So you're life is over? 
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DarknessDeku
Title: Deku Scrub
Joined: Dec 08 2007
Location: The Forest
Posts: 3285
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I'm single.
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DarknessDeku is already assimilated by the bots.
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S. McCracken
Moderator
Title: Enforcer
Joined: Aug 22 2005
Location: Massachusetts
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I've been engaged since March, and i know a few people on the forum are either married/engaged as well. GP comes to mind.
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DarkMaze
Joined: Feb 24 2006
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Married. 
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S. McCracken
Moderator
Title: Enforcer
Joined: Aug 22 2005
Location: Massachusetts
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| Married. |
...to the mob.
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DarkMaze
Joined: Feb 24 2006
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You lookin' to get whacked, McCracken?
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FNJ
2010 SLF Tag Champ
Joined: Jun 07 2006
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I'm married and have a child on the way.
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Black Zarak
Title: Big Coffin Hunter
Joined: Feb 01 2006
Location: Phyrexia
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| S. McCracken wrote: |
| I've been engaged since March, and i know a few people on the forum are either married/engaged as well. GP comes to mind. |
Dude, I didn't know that. Thanks for telling me! Oh and good job.
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Blackout
Title: Captain Oblivious
Joined: Sep 01 2007
Location: That Rainy State
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I would like to get married and have a kid or two, but haven't found a suitable mate yet, I tend to attract women who either (a) lie / cheat (b) are already married / in a relationship (c) have their own kids and baby daddy drama (d) a mixture of (a) (b) (c). 
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Ross Rifle
Title: Rock N Roll God
Joined: Oct 29 2006
Location: Chilliwack, BC
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I think that's just all women ever, man. I've had a grand total of two girlfriends, both of whom left me for another dude. Not nice.
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Blackout
Title: Captain Oblivious
Joined: Sep 01 2007
Location: That Rainy State
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aika
Title: Narcissist
Joined: Apr 25 2008
Location: On the table.
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| ross_rifle113 wrote: |
| I think that's just all women ever, man. I've had a grand total of two girlfriends, both of whom left me for another dude. Not nice. |
2 girlfriends =/= a good assessment of all the women in the world.
Despite the fact that I am not like most women, I do get annoyed when guys sit around and bash girls.
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username
Title: owner of a lonely heart
Joined: Jul 06 2007
Location: phoenix, az usa
Posts: 16135
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| aika wrote: |
| ross_rifle113 wrote: |
| I think that's just all women ever, man. I've had a grand total of two girlfriends, both of whom left me for another dude. Not nice. |
2 girlfriends =/= a good assessment of all the women in the world.
Despite the fact that I am not like most women, I do get annoyed when guys sit around and bash girls. |
so im sure i definitely annoy the fuck out of you
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GPFontaine
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Optimist With Doubts
Title: Titlating
Joined: Dec 17 2007
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Aside from the people on this board I haven't met many happy married people. Just people who choose to co-exist with each other.
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username
Title: owner of a lonely heart
Joined: Jul 06 2007
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| Optimist With Doubts wrote: |
| Aside from the people on this board I haven't met many happy married people. Just people who choose to co-exist with each other. |
you mean people comfortable w/each other? who are used to a routine instead of being in love?
yeah i know what you mean
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| I'll eat a turkey sandwich while blowing my load |
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Optimist With Doubts
Title: Titlating
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| username wrote: |
| Optimist With Doubts wrote: |
| Aside from the people on this board I haven't met many happy married people. Just people who choose to co-exist with each other. |
you mean people comfortable w/each other? who are used to a routine instead of being in love?
yeah i know what you mean |
Yeah kind of "I don't want to see you fuck someone else even though I sort of hate you" that's the shit dreams are made of
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UsaSatsui
Title: The White Rabbit
Joined: May 25 2008
Location: Hiding
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| Optimist With Doubts wrote: |
| Aside from the people on this board I haven't met many happy married people. Just people who choose to co-exist with each other. |
That's what marriage is, isn't it? Two people who function together well and run a household and raise a family together?
I think that's the reason for the 50% divorce rate, people go into it with the idea that marriage is like this: "Oh, I'm MADLY in love with you, our life together is gonna be happiness and sunshine and a never-ending fuck-fest for the next 50 years until we die together on a bed of rose petals..."
...and then 2 years later, after the hormones die down and you've got a kid or two, you realize that you can't stand the person you're with any more. They were fun for a while, but you don't want to spend your life with them. Oops.
If you don't go into marriage realizing that you're entering a lifelong partnership with this person that has benefits (tax, insurance benefits, a steady sexual partner) and drawbacks (dealing with another human being every day, having just -one- sexual partner), you shouldn't be getting married.
For the record, I'm currently "happily married" (4 years going).
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DarkMaze
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GPFontaine
Joined: Dec 06 2007
Location: Connecticut
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He is mostly right on the money.
I would add that it is beneficial for all couples in this day and age to live together for a few years prior to getting married. Just learn who each other are and ask those hard questions.
1) Do you want kids? How many? Is it ok if biologically we can't have them? Would you adopt?
2) How important is money? Will both people work (or at least try to)? Does a certain level of income need to exist? Will investing be something that is done together? Who will manage the money?
3) How important is family? Does one family get all of the major events? Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah?
4) What religion (if any) is going to be shared? Will the kids be brought up with it?
5) How sexually needy is each partner? Will the relationship be open? Do previous relationships matter? Where or what are the boundaries?
6) Is travel important?
7) Is home ownership important?
The list goes on and on, but it takes a long time before it is all answered. And the truth is, any one of those things can be a deal breaker for one or both people in the relationship.
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DarkMaze
Joined: Feb 24 2006
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Er, actually my was directed at all the "marriage ruins your life" people. I agree whole-heartedly with all of your points GP.
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